0:42 Are You Chasing the Wrong Goals in Your Life?
9:34 Stop Focusing on Things That Don’t Matter
36:22 Can You Answer This Difficult Question?
Is the life you’re living the life you actually want? Have you ever taken the time to stop and just reflect on your life? If not, it’s time to figure out what you want and set goals to get there. I had the opportunity to sit down with longtime Academy member Pam Hook to talk about the goals she has for her life and business. Here’s a hint: One always affects the other. Then, we’ll grab a pen and some paper to journal through what this looks like in our own lives and businesses.
Are You Chasing the Wrong Goals in Your Life?
One of the most common questions I get is about goal setting: How do I know what goals to set?
We get ideas in our head about how we want to grow or what we want to learn, so we set a goal. But here's the problem: It might be a goal that’s great for someone else, but it doesn't mean it's the right goal for you.
If you want to know where to get direction for your goals, you need to start by answering one simple question: What do you want?
Your answer to this question will determine your goals. When you start to visualize where you want to be and what you want your life to look like, that informs the goals you set to get there.
Here’s the truth: If you don’t define your finish line, you’ll never cross it. If you don’t take the time to set goals for your life, you’ll end up living your entire life pursuing someone else’s version of success.
Stop Focusing on Things That Don’t Matter
I’m so excited because Pam Hook, one of our longtime Business Boutique Academy members, is joining me on the show today to talk about goal setting. Pam and I got to sit knee to knee and dig into her goals. At the end of the session, Pam was able to go home with more clarity on the next right steps for her life and her small business. Here are a few takeaways that might resonate with you too:
Can You Answer This Difficult Question?
Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. —Psalm 37:4 (ESV)
What's so beautiful about this verse is that it reminds us that as we seek Him, get to know Him, and lean into Him, He will show us what the desires of our hearts are. He will open your eyes to things you didn't even know you wanted, to goals you didn't even consider, and to dreams that never crossed your mind before. He will do that because He loves you, and He has good plans for you.
As we look to God, seek Him, and stay connected to Him, He shows us more of who we are and who He called us to be. He shows us the life He created us to live and the plans that He has for us.
Remember: It's not on your shoulders to have it all figured out.
Take some time to write down your answers to these questions as you process and put this into practice:
What do you want? Write down the things that come to mind, the dreams that swell up in your heart, and the ideas in your head.
0:56 You Need This When Life Knocks You Down.
12:38 How to Become Unstoppable with Bethany Hamilton
33:55 Feel Like Giving Up? Start Here.
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Today, we’re talking about the secret to success, and I guarantee you, it's not what you think. And then I get to sit down and have an awesome conversation with the amazing Bethany Hamilton. You've probably heard of her—she’s a professional surfer, inspirational speaker, author, mom and wife. Her incredible story will inspire you. Then, I’ll take you through some journal questions on the idea of perseverance when you feel like giving up.
You Need This When Life Knocks You Down.
When it comes to reaching goals, pushing past limits, and trying new things, we often look to successful people to give us a formula we can follow. But so often, we’re looking to the wrong things. We think it’s their financial status, the relationships they have, the connections they make, what family they were born into, or even how they’re uniquely wired.
And while some of that may be true, those are not the true indicators of success. It comes down to one word. Are you ready for it? Perseverance. It’s about pushing through and being willing to try again. And again. And again. It's persistence and never giving up.
When we fail or fall down, it hurts. It bruises our ego and wounds our hope for the future. And that voice in our head starts to get really loud: Never again. I'm not going to do that again. I'm not going to risk that again. I'm not going to put myself out there like that again. See, that's proof. I never should’ve done that. See, that was dangerous. See, I wasn't cut out for that. See, I told you.
We look at our failures and mistakes, and we use them as proof of why we never should’ve done the thing to begin with.
I had a speaking event where I absolutely bombed—like, I wanted to disappear behind the podium. I cried the entire drive back to Nashville and told myself, Never again. I'll never speak again. I'll never walk on a stage. I'll never put myself out there like that to be embarrassed or humiliated again. Never again. But I did. And I'm so glad I did, because the number one reason I've been able to do anything I do is because I was willing to try again.
It’s all about perseverance. Just simply getting back up, dusting yourself off, and being willing to show up again and hold your head high—even when you're embarrassed.
How to Become Unstoppable with Bethany Hamilton
Y’all, Bethany Hamilton joined me today to talk about becoming unstoppable. Bethany is a professional surfer, wife, mom, author and inspirational speaker. You may remember her story from the movie Unstoppable. Bethany had to learn how to persevere through the unimaginable. I know her story will inspire you to keep going and approach life with gratitude. Here are some highlights from our conversation:
Feel Like Giving Up? Start Here.
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. — Romans 5:3–4 (NIV)
Perseverance is not just a leadership quality. It’s a biblical truth. And perseverance isn't just a quality that some people are born with. It's not just a leadership trait. It's a choice when you face obstacles. When you go through hard times, or when you experience heartbreak or tragedy, you have a choice of how you respond.
You could have a million excuses (many of which would be valid), or you could be grateful—you could persevere. You could find a way to get up and try again. You have no idea how that one action, decision or choice in how you respond to your suffering can change the trajectory of your life and the lives around you. Imagine the people you could influence and inspire because you chose to persevere through your suffering.
Perseverance produces character. I want character, don't you? Character produces hope, and hope does not disappoint. We’re called to be hopeful. This is what God created us to do, and who He created us to be.
I would love for you to pause, pray and reflect as you journal through these questions:
0:51 Do This When You Feel Hopeless
12:59 How to Overcome Loss with Jonathan Pitts
35:17 Remember This When Life Is Hard . . .
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On today’s show, we’re talking about trusting God . . . even when your heart has been broken. Then, my friend Jonathan Pitts is joining us to talk about his story of faith. He’s the executive pastor of Church of the City here in Nashville, and I know you’re going to be unbelievably encouraged by his story. Finally, we’ll spend some time journaling through what it looks like to have peace that passes all understanding. Let’s go!
Do This When You Feel Hopeless
We’ve all had disappointments in our lives. I’ve had my heart broken in many different ways. I’ve been in the hospital with my 3-year-old as he was hooked up to all these monitors to see if he was going to be okay. And he was. But at that moment I was terrified. I've lost family members. I've had family members and close friends go through tragedies in their life. I’ve also gone through seasons of darkness and wilderness where I felt like God didn't see me and didn't remember me and wondered if He was mad at me.
Have you felt like that? Have you gone through disappointments or heartbreaks or tragedies? The kind where all you can think in those moments (even if you’ve had a lifetime of faith) is, God, where are you? Do you even see me? Do you even hear me? Do you know what I'm going through?
We look to our heartbreak and draw conclusions about the character of God. But when you look at Scripture, God never said it would be easy. There’s example after example of disappointment, trials, valleys, temptations and seasons of darkness. It’s full of people feeling lost and scared and forgotten. It's full of those moments when we feel like He doesn't see us, or that He's left us or abandoned us. Or maybe it’s that He's just not good.
But you know what? Scripture also reminds us that even though we’ll go through those seasons, God is with us. Even though we’ll go through darkness, God is good. And even though we’ll go through seasons where we’re full of fear and anxiety of the unknown and experience heartbreak, disappointment and tragedy, He sees us, He's with us, and He’s still good.
How to Overcome Loss with Jonathan Pitts
I’m so excited to be sitting down with Jonathan Pitts today. He’s the executive pastor of Church of the City in Nashville, co-author of Emptied: Experiencing the Fullness of a Poured-Out Marriage, and President of For Girls Like You. Jonathan had to learn how to trust God after losing his wife Wynter Pitts. His story of faith despite the hardest circumstances really moved me, and I know it will move you too. Here are a few highlights from our conversation:
Remember This When Life Is Hard . . .
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” — John 16:33 (NIV)
There are so many things in life that we want but can’t necessarily have. We can’t have control or every desire fulfilled. We can’t always have our plans work out exactly as we want them to. Things aren’t always going to be easy. But what Jesus reminds us again and again is that we can have peace that passes all understanding despite our circumstances, our heartbreak and our tragedy. Remember: This world is not our home. We will have trouble, but God is still good—He is with us and He is for us.
Here are a few questions to ask yourself as you process what it means to have faith—even in your heartbreak.
0:48 Why Your Life Never Feels Balanced
10:10 What’s Important in Your Life? with Elisabeth Hasselbeck
35:35 What Does Life Balance Mean to You?
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Is life balance possible? What does life balance even mean? Here’s a hint: It’s not about doing everything for an equal amount of time. In this episode, we’ll cover what life balance really is and how to achieve it. Plus, I sit down with Elisabeth Hasselbeck to talk about what life balance looks like in different seasons. Then we’ll spend some time journaling about how to balance your life in your current season.
Why Your Life Never Feels Balanced
I think we have a lot of really mixed up ideas about what life balance is. A lot of people think that life balance is doing everything for an equal amount of time—where work takes 50% of your time and home life is the other 50%. But that’s not balance. Life balance is about doing the right thing at the right time and being 100% present where you are.
And it’s also something you have to define for yourself. Your version of life balance is the only version that matters because it’s your life. It doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. At the end of the day, what’s most important is that you are spending your one life on what's most important to you. When you do that, you are creating and achieving your own version of life balance.
What’s Important in Your Life? with Elisabeth Hasselbeck
Elisabeth Hasselbeck has such a cool story. She’s been a cast member on Survivor. She’s been a host on The View and Fox & Friends. She’s a New York Times bestselling author. She’s CBO (Chief Breakfast Officer) for her kids. And she has a lot of amazing wisdom on how to achieve life balance.
In this episode, we’ll talk about:
What Does Life Balance Mean to You?
Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men. — Colossians 3:23 (NIV)
I’ve been through so many seasons in life that didn’t feel balanced or purposeful. I’m willing to bet you’ve been there too. In hindsight, I can see a lot of things that God was doing. But in other seasons, I’m still not sure what the why was. All I know is this: It’s up to you to treat your season as if it has purpose. Work at it with all your heart as if you are working for the Lord and not for men.
Use these journal questions to think about how this applies to your life: